You Could Say I’ve Been Through A Lot In My Lifetime
That statement certainly felt true to me for a very long time. In fact for over 30 years, I played the blame game. It was a game I couldn’t win but I had identified so strongly with my story that I didn’t know how else to be.
Don’t get me wrong. My experiences were very real and they left deep wounds that seemed impossible to heal.
For many years I held on to my story. You could say I had good reason to.
But there came a point when I grew tired of repeating painful patterns. I got tired of losing over and over again.
On a desperate day I took a good hard look in the mirror and asked myself a very difficult question;
“What’s the common denominator in all these experiences?”
The answer was difficult to accept but it was a truth that changed my life forever.
The common denominator was me.
Yes, stuff happened to me when I was too young to do anything about it.
Yes, those experienced shaped me into who I had become.
And although the experiences I created as an adult were driven by the patterns of the past, I could either keep going round and round in circles creating one painful experience after another while blaming others for my reality or …
I could take ownership of my life and learn how to create something different